Kathy never asked “why” this terrible disease happened to her. Nor was she ever bitter about it. Rather, she asked what she could learn. She learned how to make the most of every day.
She and I also learned that we live in a mortal, frail and imperfect world which isn't "fair". But knowing that helped us to move forward during the past four years. We loved each other and made the most of everything we did together. We had few regrets.
But I’ve also learned many things over the past four years from Kathleen. How to be kinder, gentler, a better father and husband, more faithful and a better human being. Also, that a complete wardrobe of shorts and T-shirts doesn't really work in St. Louis in the winter.
But most importantly, it is to make each day as if it is your last and to think carefully about your words and deeds.
As the boys and I work through our grief, we will have good days, bad days and really ugly days. Just as before. But I am truly proud to have met and known Kathleen, her family and her many friends around the country.
As we think about how this happened, I encourage you to talk about life and death issues with your spouse, your family and your doctors. If you have specific wishes about your life, you need to have these legally documented, known to those who can help you and ensure that those around you can be strong enough to see it through. Trust me, this is not easy.
Please be sure to take care of your family, friends and neighbors. They will be your legacy.
There are great plans ahead for all of us.
God Bless.
Rodger
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